Writings
ADHD medication; A semi-accidental experiment
So I semi-accidentally conducted a bit of an experiment this past weekend, with results that are annoying, but also useful to know (and possibly helpful for others, hence the ridiculously long post) First, some context (’cause I can’t help myself)… 2020 was a hell of year, for just about all of us – for ME,…
Fuck it, let’s do this
I’ve decided to start a blog. Which is stupid, now of all times. Nobody reads blogs anymore… hell, I barely have the bandwidth to read social media posts that are longer than a few sentences. But a funny thing happened this morning, and now I feel compelled to write… there’s this thing I’ve done, damn…
How to deal with Impostor Syndrome
Impostor Syndrome; the crippling belief that your accomplishments are a fluke, you have no real skill, and you’re sure to be exposed as a fraud at any moment. Impostor Syndrome is an insidious beast. Not least of which because it likes to convince you that you are the only person “unworthy” enough to be suffering…
What does it mean to have a "thriving" business?
Everyone’s idea of “enough” is different – there’s no wrong answer to “how much money do I need to thrive?” (Well, ALMOST no wrong answer… Clearly there are a number of billionaires who could stand to be a bit more enlightened when it comes to what they actually need…) But it’s important to remember that…
It’s ok to get paid for world-changing work
How do you feel about charging for the work you do? If you’re like most of my clients, getting paid appropriately for your work is something you struggle with. There’s this notion that doing “good work” should be reward enough – that getting paid somehow tarnishes the sincerity of the work, that asking to be paid “proves”…
Finding hope through despair
For all that I talk about being driven to make a positive difference in the world, I have to confess… I am frequently overcome by the fear that I’ll never be able to make ENOUGH of a difference. I’ve had this fear for as long as I’ve had the drive, but with everything that’s happened…
Getting over the mom guilt
Prefer Video? Prefer Audio? Or download it & take it with you! I used to have so much guilt about leaving my boys with somebody else so that I could go to work… No matter how much I loved my work, I couldn’t shake the feeling that I should be with my boys… that being…
Busting the "work / life balance" myth
One of the most tempting ideas to hit the world of business is that of creating “work / life balance” – in fact, many consider it the holy grail of goals. Lack of work / life balance is blamed for all the ills that befall us, and (especially as small business owners) we ache for…
The power – and necessity – of community
{Cross posted from Facebook, in the wake of the Las Vegas shooting} I don’t really watch / read the news, so FB tends to be where I first hear about the latest and greatest tragedies facing our world… Hurricanes. Fires. Earthquakes. State-sanctioned police brutality against voters. Mass shootings. It’s hard for anyone to take in…
Freebies and fishhooks
There’s a practice in online marketing that’s been around long enough that pretty much everyone does it. In fact, if you participate in ANY online business-building program, you’re bound to come across it fairly early on. Whether you call it a pink spoon, a lead magnet, a lighthouse offer, or whatever, the idea is…
Negotiations and Love Songs
2004(ish): I was having issues with my wisdom teeth. The pain was horrible, but I was doing my best to work through it. Then, one of my most difficult wholesale customers came in to the store. I did my best to be polite as she demanded help. I answered her questions, I gave her advice.…
How to motivate yourself (when you really don’t wanna)
Today’s post is not the post I was planning on writing. You see, I spent all of Friday (the day I was planning on writing today’s post) procrastinating and putting off sitting down to write. Yesterday was going pretty much the same. Fortunately, as I was pulling myself out of procrastination mode, I realized that the trick I remembered…
Six tips for recharging an energy slump
Have you ever found yourself in an energy slump? If you have, then you know the feeling; facing the day ahead of you (and your list of Things To Do) leaves you feeling drained before you’ve even begun. There are days (like today) when all I want is to go back to bed, pull the covers over…
Forget about success vs failure, focus on the data
A friend recently posted something on her Facebook about dealing with feelings of failure, and it spawned a bit of a soapbox moment for me. I’m going to share what I said here as well, because I think this is super important stuff. I think the whole “failure/success” thing is bullshit. I prefer to think…
Don’t let the donkey win
Years ago, when I was a little girl, my dad told me something my Grampa had said about me; apparently, Grampa had noticed I was rather stubborn. I believe his exact words were, “She could out-stubborn a donkey.” I don’t think it was meant as a compliment. But I thought it was hilarious, and it…
Self-care vs Professionalism (hint: It’s a false choice)
I have a confession to make… I suck at self-care. Which may not seem like a big deal, except that a large part of my philosophy behind building a business is based on building a sustainable business. And no matter how sustainable you think your business is, if you don’t make the time to take…
Starting the wrong business
Like many of you, I spent the first part of my life desperately wishing I could find my Thing – that “one true passion” that I could immerse myself in, master, and turn into a lifelong career. And while I always knew I wanted to be self-employed, I had no idea what kind of business…